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We’re more than our minds—Handling our feelings (gasp!)

When’s the last time you felt (out of the ordinary) nervous or anxious?

I had that experience just last week.

I was meeting with my lawyer to prepare for giving a deposition. (Long story short, I have a lawsuit against two companies.) I’ve never given a deposition before. As I learned throughout the process, though I might have guessed it from watching a bit of television, it’s not exactly like having a conversation. It’s not a comfortable back and forth, it’s more about being short and to the point, just answering the question that is being asked. Those of you that know me, know that I am a bit of a chatty person. While I am task-oriented, I do love to share details that make the conversation more full and interesting. In this instance, my focus needed to be laser-like (did I understand the question, was I using the correct language to convey my thoughts), and my answers had to be brief.

Before even thinking about the struggle to get into that rhythm, I needed to manage my nerves. Even hearing myself talking about being nervous was new and different for me. That’s not to say don’t get nervous, I absolutely do, and can feel it in my body, but I just don’t talk about it much.

What about you? When’s the last time you were feeling anxious or nervous?

In 2015, I studied breathwork with Drs. Richard Brown and Patricia Gerbarg. It was another resource in my repertoire for working with my coaching clients. I became certified in their technique, using it not only with my coaching clients but also as part of the self-care program that I brought to Tasmania in partnership with my colleague Julia Curtis.

In learning the breathwork methodology, I started doing “body scans” of myself. In my practice, and in centers across Tasmania, I taught others the same skill. My training (and ongoing practice over the years) served me well last week when I needed to discover more about how I was feeling, locating tension in my body, and then working to calm my nerves through breath work and tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques).

What’s your process for discovering how you’re feeling?

Perhaps my question sounds unusual though in my work I have found that many people do not know how they feel. They know how they think, up in their minds, yet they don’t easily locate their feelings in their bodies—joy, happiness, contentment, worry, frustration, anger, surprise. (There’s great information available to learn more about these areas. Let me know if you’re interested in the resources.)

Once you’ve discovered your answers about how you’re feeling, how do you support and care for yourself?

I found, that in this nerve-jangling experience,

  • maintaining my awareness of my internal state and working with it,
  • getting congratulatory and constructive feedback from my lawyer as we practiced my testimony, and
  • seeing myself on Zoom—regulating my appearance and demeanor

left me tired and yet generally pleased with my performance.

I also credit my extensive work in Nonviolent Communication with being able to discern my emotional state, to put labels, and assign meaning to my feelings so that I choose how to work with them as opposed to them “running” me.

If you’re curious about breathwork (and the science behind it), I’d suggest Drs. Brown & Gerbarg’s book, Breath, Body, Mind. It’s an easy-to-learn process and always available for our use.

If you’re interested in gaining some of these skills, breathwork, and EFT or perhaps shifting to an appreciative perspective on your life and the world, I hope you’ll be in touch. I coach individuals in all of these areas and use all of them myself.

Registration is Open for the Bikablo 1 Day Basic—Virtual Delivery

Jill Langer, my Bikablo colleague in Canada, and I had so much fun delivering the Bikablo Basic One Day Virtual program last week, that we’ve scheduled a second for June 15th & 17th!

Please contact us with any questions after you have learned the details of the offering. Registration is now open and space is limited.

 

Registration is Open for the Bikablo 1 Day Basic—Virtual Delivery

We have exciting news to share!

The “Jills”—Jill Langer, my Bikablo colleague in Canada, and I —are offering the Bikablo Basic program in May!

Please contact us with any questions after you have learned the details of the offering. Registration is now open and space is limited.

 

Bikablo 1 Day Basic—Virtually!

We have exciting news to share!

The “Jills”—Jill Langer, my Bikablo colleague in Canada, and I —are offering the Bikablo Basic program in May!

Please contact us with any questions after you have learned the details of the offering. Registration opens tomorrow—space is limited.

 

3 Ways to Gather During this Time of Social Disconnection

Every breath you take… affects your heart rate

Did you know that voluntary changes in your breath pattern affect our emotions? Breathing in particular ways can restore balance to our stress response system, calm an agitated mind, and relieve anxiety.

In this free session, we will

  • review briefly some of the scientific basis for the effects of Breath~Body~Mind methods
  • practice techniques to quickly balance our stress response system and  improve emotional regulation
  • learn core breathing techniques , understand how they work, and discuss how we can use them to meet the many challenges we face

Here’s the link for Tuesdays at 4 pm ET

https://jillg.as.me/breatheintocalm

Drop-in Hours—The Dr. is in!

While in India, my colleagues there took to calling me Dr. Jill—which I found quite charming. I reprise it here, with a nod to one of my favorite cartoonists, Charles M. Schulz.

In this freeform “Hour of Opportunity” you are welcome to show up with a question about your work with the bikablo method, ask for feedback on a piece you are developing or have completed, or explore different ways in which to use your skills. You’re welcome to drop in and depart as you wish, or stay for the hour, listening to and learning from your colleagues!

Here is the Zoom link for Fridays, 12:30 – 1:30 ET

https://tinyurl.com/zoomw-jill

Cultivate Calm through Zentangle

Join me in drawing simple, structured patterns to create beautiful images, in a fun and supportive environment. Zentangle is a meditative art form that is created without planning, and yet follows a series of steps that allows people to experience the benefits of relaxed focus while creating delightful artwork. While I usually teach in person, I am now offering sessions online to communities of which I am a part.

I believe that our current circumstances call for opportunities for nurturing calm, engaging in simple pleasures, creating beauty, and enjoying communal experiences. 

Everyone is welcome to become a part of this captivating journey—no artistic experience is necessary. This is the right place to begin—or enhance—your skills. When you sign up, I will share information about the tools that I use—though they are not necessary to your success—and if you really want them, I can send the materials to you for future classes or your own enjoyment.

Here is the sign-up link for Saturdays, 2:00 – 3:15 ET

https://jillg.as.me/tanglingfun