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Same & Different!

Hello! It’s been a minute, no?

I am happy to put my fingertips to keyboard and be back in communication with y’all. How have you been? Please drop me a line (so reminiscent of paper and pen) to let me know, I am truly interested. 

If I were to encapsulate the past six months, I’d say that it was like a mountain range—full of peaks and valleys that were a combination of exciting, fun, challenging, heartwarming, and heartbreaking. At this moment in time, I feel ready to use my foundation, recent learning, and experiences to move in a few new directions. 

What about you?

We’re past the habitual conversations of January about setting intentions, making resolutions, etc.. Honestly, I don’t mean to belittle such practices. Yet, I believe that every day is a new day with the potential to make changes. We can decide when and how often we need to check in with ourselves to step into dreaming big, charting a new course, or engaging in course correction.

What surfaces for me is grounded in my conscious understanding that my life/our lives are finite, creating a bittersweet tension and desire to search for the good, beauty, joy, and what’s possible every day. My North Star is a belief in being in connection with others. This awareness leads me to:

  • be grateful—for even the cold, grey, cloudy, ache-y days 
  • engage consciously with family, friends, and colleagues—who do I want to be and how do I want to interact in this moment in time
  • look at all my work and play with new eyes/actively choose where I will devote my precious time—letting go of what no longer serves me and picking up new and exciting endeavors
  • practice self-care daily—meditate, create art, read/listen/learn, and keep strong boundaries

Where are you at this moment in time?

What is your North Star—your values or guiding principle(s) that facilitate easier decision-making about the direction of your life and all you do? 

I can’t wait to create more of what I desire in my life and in the world… I hope the same is true for you.

More to follow…

Rituals Create a Rhythm

This time of year, the late fall, and the beginning of the holiday season has a different rhythm and feel to it. What do you think?

I start to plan differently, make space in my schedule to slow down, to shift the balance of work, studies, play, and connection—areas which are really overlapping circles in the Venn diagram I imagine.

I easily slip into rituals of baking, shopping, and making gifts, choosing a photo for the holiday card (I am a paper and pen gal), envisioning my yearly drawing that will accompany our card, and more.

What rituals and habits support you?  What has become second nature and comfortable?

What new traditions are you creating in response to your changing circumstances?

These questions are equally relevant to our work, wouldn’t you agree?

What practices do you bring to your work to create and hold space, build rapport, increase connection, and nurture success?

I considered this question, “How are working in person and online similar and different?” with a new lens last week at an in-person training (an event that remains relatively rare).

Here are a few of the methods I use in my training and facilitation work.

  • When I’m online I ask people about where their feet touch the ground, to learn where people are coming from at that moment —literally—to create greater awareness of who is in the room. And I share that I live and work on the land of the Munsee Lenape and the Schaghticoke, in New York.
  • When in person, I’m relating to where folks are from yet making that connection in a different way. Last week when I was in NYC with participants from the five boroughs, I shared where I lived in the city, on the land of the Lenape on the Upper West Side, during my years in graduate school, and saw nods of recognition around the room.
  • Rituals in my work include using methods and practices that will create a warm and welcoming environment by recognizing people’s individuality and their group affiliations.
  • I plan for co-creating the learning experience. I endeavor to ensure that participants are fully engaged not merely consuming content, which means making the time and space for participants to think, question, practice with real-life applications, reflect, capture their knowledge, and plan for using it.
  • Asking for their written feedback about their learning and experiences is a sign of respect (from me to the participants) and an opportunity for me to learn what was new, important, interesting, perhaps puzzling, and what can be improved.

In your work, what are rituals, routines, habits, or practices that serve you and others?

What needs to be explored for its continuing efficacy, as people and circumstances change?

What is your North Star/the values or principles that guide your assessment?

My approach for all design and re-imagining/re-design—whether for change and growth in my personal or work worlds—is the 5D model of Appreciative Inquiry, because it:

  • is supportive/grounded on a positive foundation
  • exploratory
  • invites experimentation
  • flexible, and
  • results/success oriented.

I seek to create rituals, habits, and practices that support my own growth and that of everyone with whom I work.

I’d love to learn what you think and feel as you take a step back to reflect on the habits and practices that support you. Perhaps you will even share one or two with me!